ah the ramblings at 3:30am when I can't sleep and have a mind full of nothing.
I have been talking to people lately about breaking up. When is the right time? In this age of technology what is the break up etiquette?
I remember when it was socially unacceptable to break up with someone over the phone. If you couldn't do it face to face then maybe writing a letter was acceptable but a phone call was just poor judgement. These days there are so many avenues for avoiding that awkward and uncomfortable "I don't think we should see each other anymore" moment. Whether it be by email, text, skype, msn messenger or facebook the doors are open on ways to dump that ex. THe amount of failed relationships I have found out about through Facebook statuses is staggering and quite a few times these statuses have been followed by comments from the recently dumped totally aggravated that this is how they are finding out.
Although I have never personally received the "you're dumped" text before, I know countless people who have taken this as the break up option. I also know people who have been broken up with via text. Is this really the appropriate way to end it with someone you have had an intimate relationship with?
Suddenly picking up the phone doesn't seem so bad!
So when is enough enough? What is the clincher for you when you finally say this isn't going to work?
I know it is different for everyone and in every relationship. I have broken up with someone relatively easily and quickly just because they bored me but then I have also stayed in a completely dysfunctional relationship through some incredibly horrible things yet the clincher for me was when he admitted he had cheated on me.
I have seen many friends in relationships that we all know aren't healthy for anyone involved yet something keeps them there. other friends make the decision to break up with partners they were madly in love with at the drop of a hat.
Take Karen for example. Karen met this amazing guy who was a little bit younger than her but worshipped the ground she walked on. He showered her with presents, took her exciting places, listened when she spoke, the sex was fantastic - he was her dream man. Until he left a glass of water on her new bedside table without a coaster and it left a watermark by the next morning. Needless to say he was gone before breakfast never to be seen again.
A lot of people would think Karen was a bitch. I think she was following her heart. This perfect dream man obviously wasn't the perfect dream man for Karen and in her heart of hearts she knew it.Otherwise she would never have chosen a peice of furniture over him. She knew instantly from her reaction that it wasn't going to work and she moved on. Better for her and better for him.
So when do you think it is the right time to let go? What is your deal breaker? and what is the most amusing way you have been broken up with?
I have been talking to people lately about breaking up. When is the right time? In this age of technology what is the break up etiquette?
I remember when it was socially unacceptable to break up with someone over the phone. If you couldn't do it face to face then maybe writing a letter was acceptable but a phone call was just poor judgement. These days there are so many avenues for avoiding that awkward and uncomfortable "I don't think we should see each other anymore" moment. Whether it be by email, text, skype, msn messenger or facebook the doors are open on ways to dump that ex. THe amount of failed relationships I have found out about through Facebook statuses is staggering and quite a few times these statuses have been followed by comments from the recently dumped totally aggravated that this is how they are finding out.
Although I have never personally received the "you're dumped" text before, I know countless people who have taken this as the break up option. I also know people who have been broken up with via text. Is this really the appropriate way to end it with someone you have had an intimate relationship with?
Suddenly picking up the phone doesn't seem so bad!
So when is enough enough? What is the clincher for you when you finally say this isn't going to work?
I know it is different for everyone and in every relationship. I have broken up with someone relatively easily and quickly just because they bored me but then I have also stayed in a completely dysfunctional relationship through some incredibly horrible things yet the clincher for me was when he admitted he had cheated on me.
I have seen many friends in relationships that we all know aren't healthy for anyone involved yet something keeps them there. other friends make the decision to break up with partners they were madly in love with at the drop of a hat.
Take Karen for example. Karen met this amazing guy who was a little bit younger than her but worshipped the ground she walked on. He showered her with presents, took her exciting places, listened when she spoke, the sex was fantastic - he was her dream man. Until he left a glass of water on her new bedside table without a coaster and it left a watermark by the next morning. Needless to say he was gone before breakfast never to be seen again.
A lot of people would think Karen was a bitch. I think she was following her heart. This perfect dream man obviously wasn't the perfect dream man for Karen and in her heart of hearts she knew it.Otherwise she would never have chosen a peice of furniture over him. She knew instantly from her reaction that it wasn't going to work and she moved on. Better for her and better for him.
So when do you think it is the right time to let go? What is your deal breaker? and what is the most amusing way you have been broken up with?
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