One of the questions you have to answer on a lot of the dating site profiles is what is your ideal first date.
It is a question I am always interested in hearing the answer for but I am totally clueless when it comes to answering it myself. Probably because I am a little old fashioned that way and would like my potential date to come up with the plan.
The majority of replies are basically "go for a drink and see what happens" or "a walk along the beach" occasionally someone will write "go to a drag racing show" which makes me wonder why they have tried to contact me in the first place. I have yet to see an answer that stands out from the masses. I want to see something spontaneous and fun.
This has prompted me to think what was the best first date I ever had. I have had to really think hard on this though. The majority of them have been pretty average. Even my first date with "the ex" was boring. A quick bite to eat at Mcdonalds between play rehearsals doesn't really float my boat, although it was about the only time while we were together that he actually paid for something.
Doc came pretty close to getting it right. Fish and chips and a bottle of wine while sitting watching the sunset was sweet and with Doc, the conversation was always interesting and amusing which made it better.
Probably the best I can think of was J who I met at a jam session one night (prompting me to think we would make beautiful music together). It was a day time date. We met in Brisbane city and had lunch in this little vegetarian restaurant that was tucked away in an alley. Not really a huge fan of vegetarian food but it was tasty and the atmosphere was great considering we were right near the centre of town.
Conversation was easy and interesting. J could speak about politics and religion in a humourous yet well informed way. He listened to what I had to say and looked in my eyes and not at my chest.
After lunch we went for a walk along the mall,window shopped and laughed at our fellow shoppers fashion choices. It was the eighties - there was a lot to laugh at fashionwise.
At one stage J went running over to a busker, whispered something in his ear, gave him five dollars, took the guitar and started singing Billy Joel's "Always a woman" to me. Again, it was the 80's hence the song choice.
The rest of the day was spent sitting in a bookshop reading favourite paragraphs to each other, entertaining kids in the shop with our rendition of "The Cat in the Hat" and finishing at my favourite coffee shop in Brisbane back then - the Bohemian Cafe.
This place was amazing. You walked in and were instantly relaxed. This could have been the fact that you sat on copious amounts of cushions on the floor or it could have been because there was always some random person sitting at the back table smoking a joint. The whole place was decorated in vibrant colours and prints and gave you the feeling you were sitting in a Bazaar. Sitars playing in the background and incence and candles burning throughout. The coffee was served in ornate bowls and was beautiful and strong. No matter what time of the day or night you went there whether it was 3am on your way home from a night out or for brunch on a Sunday morning, the atmoshpere was always an opening of the senses. I miss that place!
So this was where J and I finished our date. Talking over our bowl of strong sweet coffee and trying not to get too high from the guy smoking at the next table.
It was a great first date, we didn't need to spend huge amounts of money, we enjoyed each others company and found interesting and atmospheric places to go.
Although we made plans for a second date it never happened. I got a phone call from J a few days later apologising and saying that his ex girlfriend had come back from an overseas trip and they were trying again.
Now that I am a little less naive I realise this was probably an excuse but at the time I was ok with that and I am grateful that the memory of the day wasn't tainted with negative thoughts due to post first date bad behaviour.
I guess my idea of a first date is spontaneity. Sure let's go for coffee but don't suggest the Coffee Club. Find somewhere interesting. Somewhere we can still talk obviously, but somewhere memorable. Be creative.
And if you suddenly decide to sing me a song halfway through the date then your chances of getting a second date are greatly improved!
It is a question I am always interested in hearing the answer for but I am totally clueless when it comes to answering it myself. Probably because I am a little old fashioned that way and would like my potential date to come up with the plan.
The majority of replies are basically "go for a drink and see what happens" or "a walk along the beach" occasionally someone will write "go to a drag racing show" which makes me wonder why they have tried to contact me in the first place. I have yet to see an answer that stands out from the masses. I want to see something spontaneous and fun.
This has prompted me to think what was the best first date I ever had. I have had to really think hard on this though. The majority of them have been pretty average. Even my first date with "the ex" was boring. A quick bite to eat at Mcdonalds between play rehearsals doesn't really float my boat, although it was about the only time while we were together that he actually paid for something.
Doc came pretty close to getting it right. Fish and chips and a bottle of wine while sitting watching the sunset was sweet and with Doc, the conversation was always interesting and amusing which made it better.
Probably the best I can think of was J who I met at a jam session one night (prompting me to think we would make beautiful music together). It was a day time date. We met in Brisbane city and had lunch in this little vegetarian restaurant that was tucked away in an alley. Not really a huge fan of vegetarian food but it was tasty and the atmosphere was great considering we were right near the centre of town.
Conversation was easy and interesting. J could speak about politics and religion in a humourous yet well informed way. He listened to what I had to say and looked in my eyes and not at my chest.
After lunch we went for a walk along the mall,window shopped and laughed at our fellow shoppers fashion choices. It was the eighties - there was a lot to laugh at fashionwise.
At one stage J went running over to a busker, whispered something in his ear, gave him five dollars, took the guitar and started singing Billy Joel's "Always a woman" to me. Again, it was the 80's hence the song choice.
The rest of the day was spent sitting in a bookshop reading favourite paragraphs to each other, entertaining kids in the shop with our rendition of "The Cat in the Hat" and finishing at my favourite coffee shop in Brisbane back then - the Bohemian Cafe.
This place was amazing. You walked in and were instantly relaxed. This could have been the fact that you sat on copious amounts of cushions on the floor or it could have been because there was always some random person sitting at the back table smoking a joint. The whole place was decorated in vibrant colours and prints and gave you the feeling you were sitting in a Bazaar. Sitars playing in the background and incence and candles burning throughout. The coffee was served in ornate bowls and was beautiful and strong. No matter what time of the day or night you went there whether it was 3am on your way home from a night out or for brunch on a Sunday morning, the atmoshpere was always an opening of the senses. I miss that place!
So this was where J and I finished our date. Talking over our bowl of strong sweet coffee and trying not to get too high from the guy smoking at the next table.
It was a great first date, we didn't need to spend huge amounts of money, we enjoyed each others company and found interesting and atmospheric places to go.
Although we made plans for a second date it never happened. I got a phone call from J a few days later apologising and saying that his ex girlfriend had come back from an overseas trip and they were trying again.
Now that I am a little less naive I realise this was probably an excuse but at the time I was ok with that and I am grateful that the memory of the day wasn't tainted with negative thoughts due to post first date bad behaviour.
I guess my idea of a first date is spontaneity. Sure let's go for coffee but don't suggest the Coffee Club. Find somewhere interesting. Somewhere we can still talk obviously, but somewhere memorable. Be creative.
And if you suddenly decide to sing me a song halfway through the date then your chances of getting a second date are greatly improved!
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